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Sunday, August 19, 2007

Fun Monday #8 - White Lies

This week's host is theotherbear at uncaringbear This is what she has asked us to do:

Share with us a little white lie that you may, or may not, have gotten away with. Perhaps it's something more sinister than a little white lie - maybe even a deep dark secret that you've kept buried for years! All the better! Now's your chance to get it off your chest and confess: "Yes, I did eat that last slice of cheese cake", "No, I wasn't washing my hair that Saturday", "Those pants do make you look fat"!

There IS a little white lie that I often tell.

When I meet someone new, and the conversation turns to my life events, I am not always honest about my wedding date. I will tell them it was December 5, 1975.

This is not the truth !!

It keeps people from judging me before they even have the chance to get to know me.

What I will tell you next is not a family secret - they all know - even my oldest son.

In reality, I got married on December 5, 1976 - about a month and a half after my son was born on October 18, 1976.

And just so you know ... I wasn't forced to get married, it was my choice. It was what I wanted to do (at the time ...if only I had known what the future would bring).

One date that I never tell a white lie about is JANUARY 5th, 1989 - the day my divorce became final !!

Make sure you stop by and visit theotherbear and find out what other's little white lies (or dirty little secrets) are.

17 comments:

theotherbear said...

Oooh, a good secret.
I don't think people judge so much on that these days. But maybe they do.
By the way, my husband is 'uncaringbear' and I am 'theotherbear'. I agree with you, I am a caring sharing person!! On him, you shall have to make up your own mind...

mjd said...

Now, that you are divorced does the topic of your wedding date come up often? Relative strangers really do not need to know all the details of your life such as the day you married.

BS said...

theotherbear: my apologies - now I have it straight!

mjd: believe it or not, I get asked that quite a bit - my kids are 29 and almost 31 and people don't believe I could have kids that old. It's ok - sometimes it feels somewhat like a compliment.

Joy T. said...

Wow, I know my husband's parents get a little itchy when asked about their wedding date. My husband was born 'premature' weighing in at a whopping 9 lbs. Cough cough. But that was 'way' back when. I'm gathering by your children's ages you aren't ancient so I'm shocked people would still 'judge' about something so trivial in this day and age. I guess 'judging' never goes away. The jerks.

Beccy said...

How times have changed. We got married after the birth of our second child...mainly because my hubby wanted to, I wasn't bothered because as far as I was concerned we were committed, we had a house, mortgage and children plus being married isn't a surety that your relationship will last. I'm glad we did, my wedding day was a blast and the tax man gave us more relief so we were better off!

Funnily enough my youngest two are jealous that they dont remember the wedding (one wasn't born the other was 3 months old), whereas the eldest remembers some of the details very well such as the strawberry soup.

her indoors said...

but you never kept it from your child, its a saving face lie but these days it is not an issue.

Hootin'Anni said...

I think all families share in your white lie. Really. Doing my family's genealogy work, I see the 'marriage' popping up just as yours...'cause in order for the family chart to be 'legit' the researcher needs 'proof' in all forms...sometimes what they have on their personal side of records do NOT correspond with the LEGAL records.

And by the bold type of the January 5th, 1989 I feel I must send along some congrats to you.

theotherbear said...

No need to apologise - in fact after retelling this post to Uncaringbear himself earlier, he thinks we might need to tell a 'history' post to explain the two of us, people don't often realise we are both there (because he does not post often at all).

ChrisB said...

Well you've read beccy's comment so this is no big deal these days but I can understand that people were more judgemental back in the early 70's :)

Tiggerlane said...

Yeah - I hear ya. I got married in June, and the kid popped out in December. Everyone knew - and I think in this day and age, it shouldn't be a big deal. Especially when there are so many single parents! Of course, in the '70s, things were different...

Amy W said...

Heck, it's was so long ago, who cares!! I of course would not be able to do the math in my head, so you would totally have been able to pull that one over me.

Karmyn R said...

Now days this is such a common thing there is no reason to lie.

SJ said...

Hmmm, I'm your sister and I never knew your wedding date. Could that be because you were already a single mom and making it on your own by the time I was old enough to really realize what was going on....

Hmmm, you could have pulled this over on me too. Imagine that.

BS said...

SJ - seeing that you were just a little over a year old when I got married - Of course, you wouldn't have remembered - but I can prove you were there - I have pictures!!

Pamela said...

I understand what it was like back then... especially in certain groups.

I can't remember the divorce date of my first marriage.

susan said...

My grandpa used to say that the first baby can come at any time, but all the rest take nine months. I finally figured out what he was talking about when I did the math and realized that my uncle was one of those first babies that came early.

Rachel said...

Lol! I love your secret!!!